Mothers who didn’t bond with their babies were called cold, broken, unnatural. Then a psychologist asked a different question: “What has this family lived through?” That question changed everything.

Mothers who didn’t bond with their babies were called cold, broken, unnatural. Then a psychologist asked a different question: “What has this family lived through?” That question changed everything.
1970s. Ann Arbor, Michigan.
A young mother sat in Selma Fraiberg’s office, holding her six-month-old baby at arm’s length, tears streaming down her face.
“I don’t feel anything,” she whispered. “I …